Can I get in trouble for being an unhappy person?
I started a new job at the beginning of December, and in those first two weeks I've had a few traumatic events happen in my personal life. I haven't necessarily been the happiest person at the jobs I've been at, but this last week I started as a teary mess and now feel completely numb. I'm worried that I am coming across as rude or mean.
Also probably worth mentioning that I seemed to have started off on the wrong foot: a sarcastic remark I made unintentionally hurt someone's feelings (my manager had a one on one with me about it), I went to a different department to ask about their workflow (I'm legacy software, they're the new stuff), and I think I came across as uppity (I'm still in training, but I saw the code was lousy with "magic numbers", which I lamented to someone).
Due to the magnitude of the personal events, I think it's going to take me a very long time to recover, but even so I don't feel like being happy, or even pretending to be. I haven't smiled or laughed the whole week, and I've only really talked to people if there's a work need. Is there a "right" way to avoid conflict while feeling like this?
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I started a new job at the beginning of December, and in those first two weeks I've had a few traumatic events happen in my personal life. I haven't necessarily been the happiest person at the jobs I've been at, but this last week I started as a teary mess and now feel completely numb. I'm worried that I am coming across as rude or mean.
Also probably worth mentioning that I seemed to have started off on the wrong foot: a sarcastic remark I made unintentionally hurt someone's feelings (my manager had a one on one with me about it), I went to a different department to ask about their workflow (I'm legacy software, they're the new stuff), and I think I came across as uppity (I'm still in training, but I saw the code was lousy with "magic numbers", which I lamented to someone).
Due to the magnitude of the personal events, I think it's going to take me a very long time to recover, but even so I don't feel like being happy, or even pretending to be. I haven't smiled or laughed the whole week, and I've only really talked to people if there's a work need. Is there a "right" way to avoid conflict while feeling like this?
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I started a new job at the beginning of December, and in those first two weeks I've had a few traumatic events happen in my personal life. I haven't necessarily been the happiest person at the jobs I've been at, but this last week I started as a teary mess and now feel completely numb. I'm worried that I am coming across as rude or mean.
Also probably worth mentioning that I seemed to have started off on the wrong foot: a sarcastic remark I made unintentionally hurt someone's feelings (my manager had a one on one with me about it), I went to a different department to ask about their workflow (I'm legacy software, they're the new stuff), and I think I came across as uppity (I'm still in training, but I saw the code was lousy with "magic numbers", which I lamented to someone).
Due to the magnitude of the personal events, I think it's going to take me a very long time to recover, but even so I don't feel like being happy, or even pretending to be. I haven't smiled or laughed the whole week, and I've only really talked to people if there's a work need. Is there a "right" way to avoid conflict while feeling like this?
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I started a new job at the beginning of December, and in those first two weeks I've had a few traumatic events happen in my personal life. I haven't necessarily been the happiest person at the jobs I've been at, but this last week I started as a teary mess and now feel completely numb. I'm worried that I am coming across as rude or mean.
Also probably worth mentioning that I seemed to have started off on the wrong foot: a sarcastic remark I made unintentionally hurt someone's feelings (my manager had a one on one with me about it), I went to a different department to ask about their workflow (I'm legacy software, they're the new stuff), and I think I came across as uppity (I'm still in training, but I saw the code was lousy with "magic numbers", which I lamented to someone).
Due to the magnitude of the personal events, I think it's going to take me a very long time to recover, but even so I don't feel like being happy, or even pretending to be. I haven't smiled or laughed the whole week, and I've only really talked to people if there's a work need. Is there a "right" way to avoid conflict while feeling like this?
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