Coworker is lying about having kids. What should I do?
A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. When somebody brings in some food (like donuts or cake), he'll grab a few extra servings home with him because he says his kids will love it.
I know that the other members of his scrum team get annoyed that he takes off so much time off for kids, but they all try to be supportive and understanding because he seems like such a great father. One of the women laments how she wishes her husband was as good of a dad as he is.
There's only one problem: he doesn't have any kids.
I started having suspcions a few weeks ago when his some of his stories didn't add up. I did a quick reverse google search of his "kids" pictures to find out that the photo he was sharing with the office was from a 1997 cereal commercial. After stopping by his desk, I realized that his "wife's" photo is literally a stock photo with the watermark still visible.
There are other details (I won't bore you with all of them here), but I have become 99.99% sure that he's purely making everything up and lying about having kids. He takes the time off to go home and play video games.
Professionally, what can I do about this? He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely. But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates. And if I'm honest with myself, the whole thing pisses me off and I want to see him get in trouble or reprimanded for this. What is the best way to deal with this in a professional manner?
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A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. When somebody brings in some food (like donuts or cake), he'll grab a few extra servings home with him because he says his kids will love it.
I know that the other members of his scrum team get annoyed that he takes off so much time off for kids, but they all try to be supportive and understanding because he seems like such a great father. One of the women laments how she wishes her husband was as good of a dad as he is.
There's only one problem: he doesn't have any kids.
I started having suspcions a few weeks ago when his some of his stories didn't add up. I did a quick reverse google search of his "kids" pictures to find out that the photo he was sharing with the office was from a 1997 cereal commercial. After stopping by his desk, I realized that his "wife's" photo is literally a stock photo with the watermark still visible.
There are other details (I won't bore you with all of them here), but I have become 99.99% sure that he's purely making everything up and lying about having kids. He takes the time off to go home and play video games.
Professionally, what can I do about this? He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely. But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates. And if I'm honest with myself, the whole thing pisses me off and I want to see him get in trouble or reprimanded for this. What is the best way to deal with this in a professional manner?
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A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. When somebody brings in some food (like donuts or cake), he'll grab a few extra servings home with him because he says his kids will love it.
I know that the other members of his scrum team get annoyed that he takes off so much time off for kids, but they all try to be supportive and understanding because he seems like such a great father. One of the women laments how she wishes her husband was as good of a dad as he is.
There's only one problem: he doesn't have any kids.
I started having suspcions a few weeks ago when his some of his stories didn't add up. I did a quick reverse google search of his "kids" pictures to find out that the photo he was sharing with the office was from a 1997 cereal commercial. After stopping by his desk, I realized that his "wife's" photo is literally a stock photo with the watermark still visible.
There are other details (I won't bore you with all of them here), but I have become 99.99% sure that he's purely making everything up and lying about having kids. He takes the time off to go home and play video games.
Professionally, what can I do about this? He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely. But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates. And if I'm honest with myself, the whole thing pisses me off and I want to see him get in trouble or reprimanded for this. What is the best way to deal with this in a professional manner?
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A peer of mine (same organization but different scrum team) is a very involved father. He is often taking time off of work to watch his kids and leaving early to take his kids to soccer practice. When somebody brings in some food (like donuts or cake), he'll grab a few extra servings home with him because he says his kids will love it.
I know that the other members of his scrum team get annoyed that he takes off so much time off for kids, but they all try to be supportive and understanding because he seems like such a great father. One of the women laments how she wishes her husband was as good of a dad as he is.
There's only one problem: he doesn't have any kids.
I started having suspcions a few weeks ago when his some of his stories didn't add up. I did a quick reverse google search of his "kids" pictures to find out that the photo he was sharing with the office was from a 1997 cereal commercial. After stopping by his desk, I realized that his "wife's" photo is literally a stock photo with the watermark still visible.
There are other details (I won't bore you with all of them here), but I have become 99.99% sure that he's purely making everything up and lying about having kids. He takes the time off to go home and play video games.
Professionally, what can I do about this? He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely. But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates. And if I'm honest with myself, the whole thing pisses me off and I want to see him get in trouble or reprimanded for this. What is the best way to deal with this in a professional manner?
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He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely
Yes, not your business, I'd stay out of this and steer clear of any involvement whatsoever.
But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates.
Unless you are responsible for managing him, once again, not your business.
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He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely
Yes, not your business, I'd stay out of this and steer clear of any involvement whatsoever.
But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates.
Unless you are responsible for managing him, once again, not your business.
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He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely
Yes, not your business, I'd stay out of this and steer clear of any involvement whatsoever.
But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates.
Unless you are responsible for managing him, once again, not your business.
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He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely
Yes, not your business, I'd stay out of this and steer clear of any involvement whatsoever.
But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates.
Unless you are responsible for managing him, once again, not your business.
answered 7 mins ago
Sourav GhoshSourav Ghosh
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He's not on my immediate scrum team, so it could be safe to just stay out of this completely
Yes, not your business, I'd stay out of this and steer clear of any involvement whatsoever.
But I do feel like I have somewhat of an obligation to the org and the company to let the truth be known so that he stops taking advantage of his teammates.
Unless you are responsible for managing him, once again, not your business.
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